Am Aware Of The Things That Go Wrong..."
worked through the first four chapters and what I notice is that
I am aware of the things that "go wrong".
was amazing last week. I was on a one week holiday with my friend
and his sister. There were a lot of situations to practice. Wow!
I am "very good" in criticizing. Well every time when I start
thinking or talking a word in the direction of criticizing I take
a break. I even felt very consiously how it feels to be critized.
And my reaction on the critic of other persons to me also was
principly very painful.
Wow - I am labeling. I did not know that even if you think "labels"
you are labeling. I stopped labeling in words (with friends on
a terrase e.g.) years ago. But in my mind especially overweight
people instantly get a label.
Diagnosing is one of my favorites. Yes, I am an expert in "helping
people to say how they can solve their problems". Great you put
my face on that. I stopped it immediately and am practicing your
tips. Thanks a lot.
But the best thing up to now was the chapter about Praising. I
learned from my father not to praise. That makes no sense because
when you praise people they think they are very good and do not
work that good anymore. You have to know that my father owned
a shoe factory. I cannot remember that I ever got a praise either
from my father or from my mother.
when I started my own business (about 25 years ago) I copied that
behaviour and never really praised my employees. I always was
afraid that when I praise them they would ask for more money.
I know better. I already started praising my boyfriend. I started
praising some people and it has an amazing effect. I do take your
advice and do not overpraise. I also pay attention to be natural
and not overdone. It still is a very new feeling but the reactions
are so positive that I will continue praising.
am very curious about the next 8 chapters. And once I have finished
the book I'll start over again.
for this big instrument. Keep me posted.
van der Hejiden from Mallorca, Spain
Helpful, Supportive And Life Changing Perspective That I Really
Needed In Order To Correct My Communication Problems...""
I am reading your book it is really helping me a lot, and it's
a great read.
am really gaining knowledge and a great deal of insight
from it. I am taking notes like crazy and have been implementing
as of the moment I received it.
will keep you informed of how it is impacting my life and relationships,
so far I feel like it is going to create a much happier life.
a note to to thank you very much for really helpful supportive
and life changing perspective that I really needed in order to
correct my communication problems.
never realized how many of them I had until you came along, and
I thank you for pointing them out (all twelve of them, I need
lots of work.)
you so much, and best to you.
The Effects In Almost All Instances I Have Applied..."
"Hi Josh, I
have read (or understood!) the first 4 concepts till now. Of course
I have experienced all 4 of them. I became more observant of
myself and feeling the self-transition and family members' impact.
I am pleasantly
stunned at the insight in almost every other sentence and
wonder at your perception and how you could write that way.
not the truth", how and wow true! As of now the feeling I get
is that the book is packed with insight.
Somehow I am
able to integrate concepts (seemingly simple though elusive)
and feel the effects in almost all instances I have applied.
Thanks for writing
The Hidden Mysteries Behind The Communication Skills..."
you have unravelled the hidden mysteries behind the ommunication
skills and I feel I could have really changed my life and
led a meaningful life, had I been able to secure the true nuggets
of gold( THE COMMUNICATION SECRETS) during the dark periods
in my life.
I am thankful to you for enlightening the inquisitive minds
all over the world and I pray to God that such great wisdom as
elaborated in your book and website reach the millions of confused
minds drowned in drug addiction, alchohol, cruelty to mankind
Joel from Chennai, South India
The Information Very Helpful..."
such a comprehensive folder that I am taking it very slowly and
highlighting the points that are relevant to my situation.
partner and I have had problems in our relationship and we have
narrowed it down to communication. I'm finding the information
very helpful and am trying to absorb as much as I can.
think the most powerful thing that has stood out for me personally
has been that you need to be "aware" of things. Being aware means
I don't react the way I used to. "Awareness"
and a shift in attitude is very self-empowering.
had a situation just this morning with my partner, where we spoke
on the phone about something that happened yesterday and I got
off the phone feeling a little confused and frustrated.
a quick attitude adjustment I thought that it was not worth stewing
over and sent him a quick text. My morning has been going quite
well thus far and I'm feeling better about the whole thing.
for checking on my progress, I appreciate it. It really is a wonderful
book and I'm certain that it will help me become a more successful
communicator. Have a great day :-)
Gabriel, Personal Assistant to General Manager (Maroochy RSL Club)